me timeMost of us dream of a world where we have plenty of time to relax, unwind and actually get around to doing all of the nourishing, creative things we don’t have time to do in real life.

The fact is that, for most of us, we have to make the time. Despite promises that technology would give us more leisure time, quite the opposite has happened. We’re busier and more stressed than ever.

Technology is wonderful for many things: we can easily keep in touch with family and friends in far-flung places, order groceries online and instantly find the answer to almost anything, but it’s a double-edged sword. We’re working into the night, checking work emails on the couch and even in bed, or spending countless often unconstructive hours on social media (which can also contribute to lowered levels of wellbeing because we think other people have happier, more fulfilling lives than we do). Even with so-called labour-saving devices we’re still spending hours washing, cleaning, cooking, ferrying people around, doing admin – the list is endless.

The point is that everyone is super busy with endless to-do lists, and that’s not likely to change anytime soon. So making time for self-care – and that can be whatever nourishes you and creates a balance with the hurly burly of life: yoga, meditation, having a massage, writing in a journal, painting, gardening, knitting, catching up with a friend, going to a gallery or to see a movie, or just sitting quietly and looking out of the window – is vital to our physical, mental and emotional health and wellbeing.

If you think you don’t have time for regular self-care, think about what will happen if you don’t make time. If you get so run down or burnt out that you get ill. Making time now for self-care and nurture (and not feeling guilty about it) actually makes you better able to cope with the demands of daily life. You’ll feel happier and healthier and more resilient and you’ll have more energy to deal with work, family and whatever else comes your way.

If you’re not used to making and taking time for yourself, start with something small like a cup of tea in the morning before the rest of the family gets up, a quick walk in the sunshine during the day (perhaps after dropping the kids off at school, or getting away from your desk at lunchtime) or even just pausing what you’re doing for 60 seconds a few times a day and to just sit quietly and breathe.

Let me know how you go and what works for you!